Ok- I get it. Drama doesn't stop after Jr. High

Soooo... A very crazy week here!  Well - few weeks for that matter.  And I know some of you will be offended by this, but female bosses (for the most part) are psycho, high n mighty, control freaks!  Yikes!  (And to think, she runs a company that employs nearly 80 other women!)  Now I know there are a few women out there in leadership roles that totally rock... I've even had a few for bosses at one time or another.  But most of you will have to agree with me (even those of you who ARE the female bosses), that most women bosses are MORE personally involved, and LESS professional when someone they don't care for is under their supervision.  Right??  You know you agree.... and I know it, but you can deny it.  Some of you will, and if so, then you're probably just like the one I'm referencing.  Again, I'm not saying ALL, but sadly, most. 

So... a few weeks ago I get home from a weekend camping trip and retrieve my voice messages.

1st message is from the above noted 'boss' - (sort of - I'm legally self-employed, but they do handle the contract and cut the check... so)... anyway, the message says: "Oh, sorry I missed you.  I hate to leave this in a message, I really need to talk to you today. (By the way, this message was left on a Friday afternoon at 1:30 and she was leaving for a 10 day vacation the following day) Anyway, she continues her message, "They (the co. I'm contracted to) are requesting a change for Whatshizname. (My client, and the one I consider my real boss, because he is who I actually work for.)  Anyway, in order to make this less confusing ... I'll just recap... in a general manner...
- She says he's being reassigned.
- But.. the next message is from my client, Mr. Whatshizname, and he says "Hey give me a call, do you know what's going on here?"
- No, I don't --- No he doesn't... So who requested what change?? huh?

Anyway long story short, and to spare those of you who are already lost in this mess, she basically doesn't like me - not really news to me, but I don't care, I don't like her either.  However, she came very close to losing business by trying to pull this crap... She's the kind of person who has been able to get her way for most of her life, ... until she tried to take me on... But because she doesn't like me, she thought she could  pull one of my best clients from me, give him to someone else, and assume that he and I weren't going to question it??  And believe me - she had some great explanations... or rather B.S. excuses! ... Anyway, once I started to question her and her actions, and once she realized that I had more info then she thought I did, and once she stared feeling the heat of being asked to explain herself and her reasons/actions, she threw her hands up.  She quit responding to me, and pushed the responsibility off onto another woman who is also in her employ.... CRAZY, and totally unprofessional.. Not good when you're risking the loss of business from a multi-million dollar company.  But again, she's probably been able to push people around her whole life with little or no confrontations, and then .... THERE WAS ME! 

I'm sure she's still reeling... because I know I am, and I won.  But I still wish she'd have called me back, because there's still a few items I wanted to have her explain to me.  Still question's I want answered, but then again... she doesn't have a professional answer, and I've already debunked all the other excuses she gave me... so I guess that's a little satisfaction.  I'd just like to say, "So, what is it about me that makes you feel so threatened?"  And "Was this attempt of yours to 'try to put me in my place' really worth the possibility of losing hundreds of thousands of dollars in business, by showing the management of your biggest contractor how UNprofessional you can be??"  Maybe she needs some counseling.

Signing off ~ XoXOXo

Notes to myself:

* Quit drinking coffee when I'm wearing white.  It doesn't matter how careful I am, ... I'm gonna SPILL.
* Try and remember those lessons I taught myself when I needed to SAY NO. ....  I'm a little rusty I guess!
* First and foremost, be a mom.... the rest of the world can fend for themselves for all I care.
* Don't be too quick to judge. I may not know the whole story.
* Even if I don't know the whole story, I still know all the answers!(Why can't people just be like me?)- j/k
* Love myself .... .... ..... ..... ..... .... (at least try)

XoXoxO... Signing off!

My Own Cynical Sunday Sermon...

I know, we should all give service, and be charitable, but I'm in some sort of mood today!  Why is it that we are ALWAYS helping the SAME people?  Seriously, week after week, year after year?? Yes, I actually went to church today, and what I heard was great, and actually has nothing to do with why I'm writing this now.  But someone from our church called my husband last week, - again - for help with their car.  Now, I know Santo can't take the time to 'teach this person to fix his own damn car', but isn't ther that old saying "Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; Teach a man to fish and you feed him always."  So why is it, that this so-called charity we give is to the same people - over and over again. I'm sorry, but it feels less and less like charity each time you give these people your service. (I know, I'm going to Hell - No Surprise there) But seriously, I'm having issues.  When do these people learn to better THEMSELVES? I think, unfortunately, that so many of these people fall into the 'helpless zone' and WANT to stay there.  Of course they do, no responsibility on their own shoulders. Just let everyone else do it for you.  Now, don't get me wrong, I honestly do enjoy helping people out, and I am willing to give charity, but when it's REALLY charity, not just because someone wants to take advantage of me again, and again, and again...  When it's really charity, I feel great, proud and honored to help out.  When it's the 10th time in one year with little or NO effort on their part, I feel USED.  Ther are no physical limitations holding this person back from keeping a full time job. (Mental ??  Maybe, but nothing clinically diagnosed; just apathy) And if they would try keeping any sort of job for a while, maybe they could spend a few bucks and get their car checked out by a garage.  My lover hasn't been home for more that about 24 hours in the last week, (because he's one of those people with a full-time job - and then some,) so yeah, I'm a little selfish when they want him to take more time away from home and family to be USED again. ( Satan, leave the light on for me.. I'm sure I'll be there soon.)

Anyway, I haven't updated the blog for a while, so I thought, "What the Hell... I'll teach the Sunday School Lesson today - and vent it all out on my blog!"  Hope you enjoyed the Cynical Sermon -  Be Happy, and Be Charitable!  :)

Signing Off!  XOXOXO

end of school update!

WOW!  There's always SOOO much going on at the end of every school year.  Concerts, dance performances, award programs,  etc.. etc ... Then on top of that, we have to start the sign ups and practices for all the summer activities... so with the overlap it's a CRAZY time of year!

We had Maia's Ballroom performance the end of April, moved right into Mesa's Ballroom performances, then to the Flag ceremony and awards program for 5th grade.  And on top of that, we started softball (which I'm coaching again), and baseball. Throw in Mother's Day, Mesa's birthday, and PTO, and that comes out as a VERY busy month! Oh, and Santo changed jobs in the middle of the month as well, so we had a going away party for him from the site, and we are now trying to get used to the new schedule he'll have with the new job... I'm a little overwhelmed some days!  What a baby ... I know there are mom's out there doing more than me.  Anyway - here are a few pix from what's been tying up my time this month!

Mesa was the only student in her class to score a 100% on her Flags test. So she was chosen to present the awards to her class.

Here's Santo with some of the guys he worked with out at SMC.  He's really going to miss that place, and the guys he worked with.

It has been CRAY - BUSY, but in all - a Great Month!

Signing off ... XOXOXO ~Destry